No Christmas Without Children

No Christmas Without ChildrenChristmas is Christmas, but it is not the same when a happy and reflective day is celebrated without the joy and excitement that only children can bring.

I love to observe young children around Christmas time.

First, there is the anticipation and the waiting…

Wondering what is hiding in the so beautifully wrapped presents. “Does Santa really know what I want, what I have been waiting for, for half the year already? Did Santa remember me? Is it even possible that he can find me what I want? Wow…”

Then the excitement of finding the presents.

Coming down the stairs on Christmas morning and seeing all the wrapped presents. Yes, it is Christmas and today I can open my gifts, no more waiting.

And, of course, the highlight! Opening the presents.

“So many new toys to play with… Joy, laughter, and even confusion! Where do I start? Ooh, I love Christmas…”

And then we grow up! And then they grow up! (All too fast)

Do you remember those feelings, the joy, and wonderment? Now, without getting philosophical, the joy of Christmas is still inside us, within our inner child.

Maybe Christmas is the day to remember and reconnect with the child inside ourselves. Maybe to enjoy Christmas like children, we need to go back into that place in our hearts where we are children, where we can look at life through a child’s eye.

So…

What if you could have a conversation with the 5-year-old you? What would bring you the joy and excitement you knew when you were a child waiting for Christmas? What would you share? What do you want from life?

What is it that you want to see wrapped under the tree? What are you hoping to hold in your hands when you unwrap your beautiful present?

Think about this for a moment: When we remember the child within, there is never a Christmas without children.

But,

Let’s look at practical, simple ways how you can cope without your kids or grandchildren this holiday season.

After all, as we get older and families get more complex, holiday celebrations change. It is not always possible to have our loved ones with us. So, find ways to create joy and peace even if it is your year without the grandkids.

7 Tips to survive Christmas without your Children and Grandchildren

Be flexible!

What you plan may not work out. Try to keep an open mind, and sometimes you may be surprised that things work out much better than you expected or hoped for.

Don’t take it personally.

Your children and grandchildren have lots of responsibilities and many people to accommodate, and at the same time, they are creating their own traditions. Think back to those days when you were the child and holidays were stressful because you had to accommodate everybody.

Plan your day.

Set your day up for success.

If you know that you tend to get sad in the morning, plan this time with a friend or family member. If you need alone time, do that. For many, the evening is a tough time to get through. If that is you? Plan something special for that time.

Decide upfront what you need and want to do and create a plan. It may be a good time to reflect on your life or the following year but do not add stress to your day. This is the day to be kind to yourself!

Spend the day with special people.

Just because your kids or grandkids are not available doesn’t mean you have to spend the day alone. Spend the day with friends or family members. Work on creating new traditions and memorable moments with friends.

Plan a quick hook-up with your grandchildren or great-grandkids.

Thanks to technology, this is now easy. Plan for the best time to talk to them:

  • When they won’t be too excited about opening presents.
  • You don’t want to catch them when they are hungry.
  • Or tired after a long day of eating and celebrations.

Speak to your son, daughter, or grandchild ahead of time to find the best time to arrange the call with a little one. As you know, it is easier when they can see you, so set up skype or face time.

Maybe the family can dial you in so that you can watch them opening gifts.

If the kids are young, don’t take it personally if they are not interested in a conversation with you. They have a lot going on.

Spend your day doing things that make you happy.

This is not the day to overthink your life. If you like to paint, then paint. Read that book that you haven’t found time for yet.

Don’t limit your Christmas celebrations to one day.

Plan celebrations with your loved ones around the one day when everybody is stressed and overwhelmed.

What to do if the kids and grandkids are with your estranged or divorced spouse?

This situation might be unpleasant and sad, but it is life. If you still have bad feelings towards your former husband or wife, maybe now is the time to find a way to deal with this.

These holidays that you associate with family gatherings will not go away. Feel sad but then also learn to move on.